I began working in television
in Milwaukee in 1978. While I'd never set out to do talk
TV, I felt at home from the beginning, and being the public
eye gave me many opportunities to share my faith. Because
it was fairly common knowledge in the community that I was
a Christian, the publicity of going through a divorce was
difficult. I felt as if I was sitting naked on top of a
flagpole in downtown Milwaukee. That winter, I went home
at the end of each day to a cold, silent house. Emotionally
depressed and grieved, I would then climb into bed with
my hat, coat, and boots still on and sleep till morning.
I'm not sure when
that heavy veil of grief and emptiness began to lift. But
sometime that spring, I became aware of the sweet smell
of the wet earth beginning to thaw, the songs of promise
that were being sung with such abandon from every nest and
perch. I began to move on. I had no intention of dating
and no interest in pursuing a new relationship. Though I
loved children, I had accepted that there would be none
in my first marriage. I was in my thirties, and the prospect
of marriage and a family seemed remote and unlikely. Yet
God had other plans.
I met Andy Friedrich
at a retirement celebration for a coworker. He had gone
through a divorce a number of years before that, and after
much floundering and searching, a friend had led him to
Christ. But no one had discipled him, so he had little knowledge
of the Scriptures and wasn't in a church or study group
of any kind. Initially we met to talk about the Lord. In
time, I grudgingly conceded to a date, but not without apprehension.
Even though Andy
was ready for a relationship, I was still gun-shy -- so
he simply waited. With tenderness and kindness and an incredible
amount of patience, he broke down any barriers I'd put up.
He was faithful, trustworthy, and committed to the Lord
and to me. We were married a little more than a year after
we'd begun dating.
The Lord used
Andy in many ways to help heal old wounds in me. He offered
both of us a new beginning, a clean slate, a hope, and a
future. And I'm now a mom -- not one, not two, but seven
children, each a precious, unique gift from the Lord. God
has surely given me more than I could hope for or ask.
The story of Joseph
in the book of Genesis is one of my favorites. Sold by his
brothers into slavery, taken to a foreign land, unfairly
accused and imprisoned, and with little hope or expectation
of ever seeing his family again, Joseph was in what seemed
an impossible situation. Despite all that, the Bible says,
"The Lord was with him."
God allowed the
testing to build character in Joseph. Joseph went through
years of waiting and suffering before he saw God's plan
in it all. God used Joseph to save Egypt, the surrounding
nations, and Joseph's own family. God's plans and purposes
are so much bigger and greater than our own.
At the end of
his story, Joseph says, "You meant evil against me;
but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as
it is this day" (Genesis 50:20). That same truth is
reconfirmed in the book of Romans in the New Testament.
"All things work together for good to those who love
God" (8:28). God is indeed, the God of second chances.